Mother’s Day For The Chronically Ill

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I was on Twitter this evening wishing everyone a happy Mother’s Day and a tweet popped up on my Twitter timeline:

“Tomorrow is a special day to honor moms, but also a painful day for those who’ve lost moms or children. Let’s be sensitive to each other!”

For some, this may be mistaken as a downer of a message, however this rings all too true in the chronically ill community. It is unfortunate that so many of us have experienced heartache on top of the daily physical pain and suffering we endure from our illness. This tweet from an amazing women who I follow on Twitter was very humbling. The community of the chronically ill are an amazing bunch and we all look out for each other as best as we can.

I know of many women who have tried to conceive and are unable to due to their medical conditions. Other women cannot even try for it would be too difficult for their body to handle pregnancy. There are women who have been successful in conceiving and have miscarried their child.

I, myself had a very scary pregnancy due to complications from lupus and lupus nephritis. I gave birth to a 28 week old, 1 pound 12 ounce daughter who was only half baked in the oven. I am one of the lucky ones (I prefer to use the word blessed) who was able to give birth, survive and have my child survive. She is now almost 6 years old, healthy, and 40 pounds soaking wet.

I did not give birth to my oldest daughter. She is my husband’s daughter from a previous relationship and her mother is barely in the picture. Despite not giving birth to my oldest daughter, she is in every other sense of the word, my daughter. Giving birth does not make you a mother. Raising a child and giving them your unconditional love, providing for them the best you can despite all odds, and simply being there for that child is what makes you a mother.

Pets are a part of families. I think just about everyone reading this who has a pet would agree. I know many women who have pets. They affectionately refer to them as furbabies. I have a furbaby as well and agree, a mom is a mom is a mom. Moms of furbabies are amazing women as well. I must say, their furbabies are very spoiled and well taken care of… they are their children.

I hope that all of the mothers out there have an amazing Mother’s Day this year. No matter what kind of mother you are…a birth mother, a step mother, a foster mother, a mother of a furbaby, or a mother of an angel child… may you have a blessed Mother’s Day filled with love and fond memories. A mom is a mom is a mom, no matter how from.

Related:
Birth of a Lupus Mom

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